Many people (usually single ones) think that you get lonely only when you're single and that being married is a guarantee that you always have company. That's not really true. Just looking at the statistics we can see that more than half of the marriages end up with a divorce. The "irreconcilable differences" stated for breaking up hide loneliness and frustration.

 

Being married but lonely is nothing new. People experienced it for ages but now they are more open-minded to end the failed marriage and to embark on a new amorous journey. But though modern people basically have the opportunity to move on pretty quickly, things are very challenging when there are children involved. They always get traumatized and needy because they don't have a normal family like everyone else. Not to mention the fact that some couples get into violent fights that can scar the child forever.

 

But what should you do if you find yourself in a situation when you're married but lonely? Standing the pressure of sharing the same place with a faded love is difficult and, once the love is gone, there is not much you can do about it. Would you prefer to be single or would you like to work on your marriage?

 

Breaking up with your spouse is tougher than ending a regular love relationship not only on a psychological level, but on a financial one too. You might have to share goods or properties and this complicates the whole process. Not to mention that a divorce is pretty painful if you really dreamed of being close to your spouse until death.

 

You have to analyze the situation and see who's to blame for your loneliness. Ask yourself the following questions:

- Is it just the other party or do you have something to do with it too? 

- Can you improve your marriage? 

- Do you still love your spouse? 

- Does he/she still love you?

 

It's important to know your feelings about the whole situation. Maybe a trip or some time alone will help you reconnect with your spouse and clear up all the differences. 

 

If you're a sociable person, you have to realize that being single again might be tougher than expected so take into consideration all your opportunities before going for a permanent break-up. See what alternatives you have to improve the circumstances and whether you can bring a bit of light into your solitary world.